Trust: Being Forthright and Honest (Part 2)
I’m not completely certain who actually reads the posts on this blog, or who even cares to know what I have to say, but the Lord laid it on my heart to continue this post and to deal with more of a question and answer basis.
Maybe you are someone who has/had a problem with lying and you want to know how to handle it and how to gain the trust back from those who you lied to.
This is part 2 of a post I added a few days ago, and I want to answer some questions you may have.
Q: Will I Gain the Trust Back From Those Who I Hurt?
A: Yes! But you have to do your part. You cannot just assume that being sorry and saying you won’t do it again will suffice, but you have to do more than that. It requires conviction. Have you been convicted of that sin? Have you felt sorry because you got caught or because you truly want to change?
I will tell you this, you will not gain back trust from someone overnight. Why? Because the healing process is much longer and much more deep because of the lie. One easy lie that takes a second for someone to take as truth, will make your rebuilding process that much longer. Take heart and be of good cheer.
If you really want to change, ask! Ask the Lord for wisdom! James 1 clearly tells us that if any man lacks wisdom let him ask so he may be competent. Ask for wisdom, ask for the Lord to show you the seriousness of your sin, and ask the Lord to fill you with the conviction of His Holy Spirit so that you will never want to do it again.
Q: Why is Lying Such a Bad Thing?
A: Because Scripture clearly says that it is something the Lord hates. One of six that He absolutely cannot stand!
It is so bad because it is an issue of trust, honesty and loyalty. Trust is such a huge issue in Scripture and even in our society today. Many people lie, to get ahead in the business, to stay out of trouble, etc. It is something our culture will say “ok” to, but Scripture will not say “ok” to.
It is such a bad thing because it conforms us into the image of the world, rather than the Word.
1 John 2:15-17 says, “Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world- the desires of the flesh and the desires of the eyes and pride in possessions- is not from the Father but is from the world. And the world is passing away along with its desires, but whoever does the will of God abides forever.”
The desire to lie is from the world because the world has labeled it has “acceptable” when Scripture clearly says “unacceptable”.
We are to conform to the image of Christ, not of the world.
In closing, I want you to realize one thing that gives hope. It is something that gives me hope every time I feel like a loser or every time I feel like I let someone down or did something stupid.
It’s found in Romans 8:1.
Romans 8:1 “There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.”
Realize this statement! Let is resonate within your heart! Memorize it! And fulfill it!
It may take time for you to rebuild a solid foundation of trust, but understand that with a repentant heart and the willingness to do the will of the Father, you will rebuild that trust, and this time it will be more solid than ever.
It may seem like an uphill battle most of the way, but trust in Christ who has never lied, who cannot lie, and who will never leave nor forsake you, and you will end up victorious on the other side and you will regain trust.
God Bless, Brad Ormonde Jr.
(If you have any questions regarding this topic and you want me to put them on here to answer, feel free to comment on here or to send me an email at bormonde@gmail.com)
